tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.comments2023-03-18T05:35:55.513-04:00A Curl Can DreamUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger26125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-14578563585917459612012-06-24T02:43:08.154-04:002012-06-24T02:43:08.154-04:00Very informative, thank you. I hope you do the sha...Very informative, thank you. I hope you do the shampoo and conditioning posts alsoMsTiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03319460779624829385noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-76083989823109208022011-12-30T19:50:23.397-05:002011-12-30T19:50:23.397-05:00I love this! Clearly I have been noticing lots of ...I love this! Clearly I have been noticing lots of hair sheeding and my baby is almost 3 months. I am also starting to decrease nursng to soon stop breastfeeding. I always try to remember that your hair goes through lots of changes after having a baby. I just hope I don't sheed too much :(msqueen20https://www.blogger.com/profile/18182997493012192549noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-19016188832069969172011-11-18T09:38:47.722-05:002011-11-18T09:38:47.722-05:00This sounds amazingly yummy! I want to try it asap...This sounds amazingly yummy! I want to try it asap...just have to buy some more cocoa powder :-)Lowiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08853115249221986403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-17497549443488450492011-08-05T20:10:40.687-04:002011-08-05T20:10:40.687-04:00Where should I start... lol
Well, first of all, I...Where should I start... lol<br /><br />Well, first of all, I have to say that I'm happy to have come across your blog. And what's even more ironic is that I Googled exactly the title to this blog. <br /><br />(I'm going to try and make this brief). I love my hair. I like wearing it curly, wearing it straight.. I even decided to cut it off this past December to rock a short curly mohawk. And when I first started my job in the corporate world, I was scared to wear my hair curly because of what "they" might think. And when I finally got the guts to do it, I received so many compliments from the Caucasians, even from the head lady who hired me!<br /><br />But with the short, spunky mohawk that I have, I fear that it will keep me from my next opportunity. So I bought a wig to cover it in the meantime, until I figure out what to do with it. The debate of whether each style I would like to try is "too ethnic" has been boggling my mind for the longest. I was even thinking about getting a perm again.<br /><br />Then, after having a few conversations with others, I finally came to the conclusion that this is me, this is who I am, and whatever is my destiny, just so long as I am professional in how I wear it, then I'll have what is meant for me.<br /><br />And get this... isn't it funny whites will be the first one to tell you that they like the curls (which are sometimes the ones we fear most in the hiring process); yet the blacks are the first to tell us that it's not professional enough? This was brought to my attention today by a great friend of mine.... <br /><br />But thanks for this article :-)Shaana Palmerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13508079601765829661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-54465772475311423792011-06-26T12:13:46.002-04:002011-06-26T12:13:46.002-04:00O my gosh! This made me laugh so hard!! I love i...O my gosh! This made me laugh so hard!! I love it! It's funny but like you said sad but still funny...I don't even know. Thanks for sharing that... and the way you told it made it that much funnier, but sad but still funny. ah, what a world we live in!Beehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17658754733824500244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-82351518939677199122011-06-17T17:02:40.555-04:002011-06-17T17:02:40.555-04:00I think everything is the way you word it, and cle...I think everything is the way you word it, and clearly she could have worded that a lot better. But, in reality, we DO have to do a heck of a lot more work to keep our hair in a manageable state. Braid-outs, twist-outs, knock-outs???? I can't think of ANY hairstyles off the top of my head that white people have to use so much time for. This is probably all she meant. But, again.... she could have found a better way to say it.tallgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16957560025669499180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-65640299362632297362010-04-08T08:14:16.720-04:002010-04-08T08:14:16.720-04:00I hear you loud and clear. I, too, have natural h...I hear you loud and clear. I, too, have natural hair and I have felt more appreciated by individuals from groups C-Z than from my own. As a matter of fact, I was told by a bonefied-no-pork-eating-Rastafarian that I am a white man's dream. I thought that to be very ironic - but according to him I had the "look"; specifically -"little and sexy", "cute", and "confident in the way you dress and wear your hair". What! Does a black man not deserve any of these things? Do I appear too unconventional? Is my vogue intimidating? Ok....I get it....I started rocking this natural hair-do a few years back - when it was happening in New York but wasn't quite hitting the streets of South Florida in a fashionable sense - but the source of the argument shocked me to the core - a Rastafarian - Mr. Au Natural who should be loving his African Princess...lol! Time and Time again I've had black men tell me to do "something" to my hair.<br><br>Then I met him. A man who prefers me with my hair kinky over it being flat-ironed;who when his fingers get caught in a knot he gently plays his way through; who who helps me to comb the conditioner through in the shower; for crying out loud - a man who did not mind being slapped straight in the eye on one of those occassions by a fistful of hair decked out in a half jar(8 ozs.) of conditioner and who proudly wore the fruits of his labor- his eye red and swollen for 3 days - and was not shy to share with his friends that "M's hair punched me in the eye"*** Cute*** Of course he would later explain and it felt so good to see him "openly" loving me and not being macho with "the boys". <br><br>This man....he is Black but in my case, he belongs to group C-Z; I am Jamaican and he is African-American. Never in a million years did I think that I would have gotten on this level with someone outside of my culture but being open to love took me there. Love knows no COLOUR, it is not puffed up and it is forgiving. Why lock ourselves away? (No Pun Intended...lol) Seriuously.<br><br>Question for you though....what does having lived in Jamaica for ONLY 10 years have to do with anythin? Curious.<br><br>Thanks for the blog.Mashiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09369262912423401027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-12181466719709306642010-04-08T10:41:23.067-04:002010-04-08T10:41:23.067-04:00@Mashie, love the enthusiasm you expressed in your...@Mashie, love the enthusiasm you expressed in your comment about what you have going on. <br>Responding to your question: I think that culturally Black women who grew up in the Caribbean may have a different perspective than Black women here about the idea of a Black man dating someone from another race (I may be wrong) just because our history's though similar through slavery, are kind of different given that Jamaica is predominantly Black (without getting into all that history). I was highlighting that since I grew up (at least half) in the States even if there is a difference in perspective (and there may not be) I think I can relate to the African-American perspective as well. In this case, the perspective African-American women may be coming from with how they feel about the interracial dating thing. That's why I brought it up. Don't mistake me though I am PROOOUUUD of my Jamaican-ness and my Jamaican heritage. :) Definitely didn't mean to downplay that.DMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17658754733824500244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-24907803407254242172010-04-16T17:57:11.363-04:002010-04-16T17:57:11.363-04:00@DM I am loving your blog. I hear - the multi-pers...@DM I am loving your blog. I hear - the multi-perspective; and I feel you - the the African diaspora sometimes get disconnectd - a'la islanders versus African-American. So imagine just how interesting and challenging my relationship is; and that in itself I can appreciate.<br><br>Keep on Bloggin :-)Mashiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09369262912423401027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-52886451109050577652010-04-29T00:05:15.062-04:002010-04-29T00:05:15.062-04:00I totally love this...you honestly opened my eyes....I totally love this...you honestly opened my eyes. At first I disagreed with the fact that hair is just hair and not a movement. for a while I thought going was a movement because i felt like Natural were taking a stand against the Dogma that society puts on us, which is that we have to straighten our hair to look European. I mean don’t get me wrong Naturals can always straighten their hair but even that is controversial for me (but that’s another conversation). Being a Non-Natural is not necessarily self-hatred, like you said but its only ignorance to the possibility of embracing our authentic entity. Another reason why I think hair or Natural hair is a movement is because it’s a journey that we have to endure as you already and a lot of people are afraid to embark on that journey. We (the Naturals) are the brave souls that take the stand to embrace our authenticity. That’s my take on that but I’m really glad I ran into your blog, very inspiring.Poetic Devicehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07560061581541785142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-80221810164648184562010-04-29T10:55:36.139-04:002010-04-29T10:55:36.139-04:00Hey DM! You raise some good points.To answer your ...Hey DM! You raise some good points.<br>To answer your question, no I don't think it fair to try to push natural hair on someone. The same way I don't think people should try to push their religion or morals on anyone. I believe that people need to discover things on their own. Yes, it's good to share perspective but some people can take it a lil far.<br>Honestly, I mostly notice more newbie naturals trying to push relaxed ladies to go natural. They are so excited about their new found journey, they want everyone to experience it. From what I've read and seen online, most veteran naturals have become comfortable with their own hair and more accepting of the fact that not every black woman will wear her hair in its natural state.<br>I guess there are naturals in all stages that will say a woman relaxes her hair because she hates her race, or wants to be white (like white women are the only women with straight hair). But not all relaxed women hate natural hair. They just choose to wear their hair chemically straightened because they have that option.<br><br>(Nice blog BTW)Brandisshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06840634954157530953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-85216162159834486522010-04-30T17:16:19.303-04:002010-04-30T17:16:19.303-04:00True words indeed. I've heard it said that yo...True words indeed. I've heard it said that your face is the picture and your eyebrows are the picture frame. You wouldn't put your Monna Lisa painting in some jacked up cheap looking picture frame.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-29170012954132189172010-05-01T22:24:15.896-04:002010-05-01T22:24:15.896-04:00Thank you. I have felt the same way and it disgust...Thank you. I have felt the same way and it disgusts me how some natural women bash non-naturals. There is no need to place harsh judgement on non-naturals. Just by rocking our own natural hair speaks volume.Candycehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11354852268308763477noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-21640029786845516972010-05-09T16:57:29.589-04:002010-05-09T16:57:29.589-04:00I'll be ready for my interview soon :)I'll be ready for my interview soon :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-18579701654882103012010-05-09T18:44:37.640-04:002010-05-09T18:44:37.640-04:00Hi, I am new to your site, and it is fabulous you ...Hi, <br><br>I am new to your site, and it is fabulous you provide great information. In fact this recipe you were so kind to share with us here is very close to what I also do to my hair. I am super happy that I have found your site. Keep up the great work !...Take care.zainab1http://www.blogger.com/profile/16737460468957770780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-39749428502368437682010-05-09T18:45:36.955-04:002010-05-09T18:45:36.955-04:00Great post!...Thanks a bunch for sharing.Great post!...Thanks a bunch for sharing.zainab1http://www.blogger.com/profile/16737460468957770780noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-71077064114498522472010-05-10T10:53:10.459-04:002010-05-10T10:53:10.459-04:00@zainab1, thanks and welcome!@zainab1, thanks and welcome!DMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17658754733824500244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-49062458532657855022010-05-14T14:34:22.293-04:002010-05-14T14:34:22.293-04:00amen!amen!ChoQolate ChiQ BKA QD!http://www.blogger.com/profile/00624720521304725431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-62597261482154459592010-05-14T23:23:22.878-04:002010-05-14T23:23:22.878-04:00YOur hair looks beautiful. I think I fell in love...YOur hair looks beautiful. I think I fell in love with my hair at abour my 4th month natural when I learned what my hair needed.Angeliquehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12935994839345493919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-47836915969681252682010-05-15T08:49:26.451-04:002010-05-15T08:49:26.451-04:00@Angelique - thanks!@Angelique - thanks!DMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17658754733824500244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-75109845125390802142010-05-18T18:10:37.695-04:002010-05-18T18:10:37.695-04:00It's pointless to ask questions about why I do...It's pointless to ask questions about why I do something for myself. When people who have natural hair do this it just means they still don't have the strength or the guts to go into public with their natural hair. But I wasn't born with a relaxer or silky curly hair. My hair is coarse, thick and tightly coiled and I don't fight with Rahra(nickname for my hair) I just let her be.Xhalted1http://www.blogger.com/profile/09424412339644630030noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-29589638273222335762010-05-18T19:59:08.313-04:002010-05-18T19:59:08.313-04:00@Xhalted1 - lol! that name you gave your hair just...@Xhalted1 - lol! that name you gave your hair just had me cracking up.DMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17658754733824500244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-62026008391810750172010-05-18T23:14:04.882-04:002010-05-18T23:14:04.882-04:00Great post!!!Great post!!!Angeliquehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12935994839345493919noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-38305097864166502282010-05-19T02:43:06.071-04:002010-05-19T02:43:06.071-04:00wow, well said!wow, well said!coconut and creamhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16669510683457178532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-76726232340734754422010-05-24T20:45:36.211-04:002010-05-24T20:45:36.211-04:00Thanks a lot, this will be very helpfulThanks a lot, this will be very helpfulAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com