tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post3912438848420700414..comments2023-03-18T05:35:55.513-04:00Comments on A Curl Can Dream: Warning: This Post is NOT About Hair! But You May Still Learn Something *giggles*Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-65640299362632297362010-04-08T08:14:16.720-04:002010-04-08T08:14:16.720-04:00I hear you loud and clear. I, too, have natural h...I hear you loud and clear. I, too, have natural hair and I have felt more appreciated by individuals from groups C-Z than from my own. As a matter of fact, I was told by a bonefied-no-pork-eating-Rastafarian that I am a white man's dream. I thought that to be very ironic - but according to him I had the "look"; specifically -"little and sexy", "cute", and "confident in the way you dress and wear your hair". What! Does a black man not deserve any of these things? Do I appear too unconventional? Is my vogue intimidating? Ok....I get it....I started rocking this natural hair-do a few years back - when it was happening in New York but wasn't quite hitting the streets of South Florida in a fashionable sense - but the source of the argument shocked me to the core - a Rastafarian - Mr. Au Natural who should be loving his African Princess...lol! Time and Time again I've had black men tell me to do "something" to my hair.<br><br>Then I met him. A man who prefers me with my hair kinky over it being flat-ironed;who when his fingers get caught in a knot he gently plays his way through; who who helps me to comb the conditioner through in the shower; for crying out loud - a man who did not mind being slapped straight in the eye on one of those occassions by a fistful of hair decked out in a half jar(8 ozs.) of conditioner and who proudly wore the fruits of his labor- his eye red and swollen for 3 days - and was not shy to share with his friends that "M's hair punched me in the eye"*** Cute*** Of course he would later explain and it felt so good to see him "openly" loving me and not being macho with "the boys". <br><br>This man....he is Black but in my case, he belongs to group C-Z; I am Jamaican and he is African-American. Never in a million years did I think that I would have gotten on this level with someone outside of my culture but being open to love took me there. Love knows no COLOUR, it is not puffed up and it is forgiving. Why lock ourselves away? (No Pun Intended...lol) Seriuously.<br><br>Question for you though....what does having lived in Jamaica for ONLY 10 years have to do with anythin? Curious.<br><br>Thanks for the blog.Mashiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09369262912423401027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-12181466719709306642010-04-08T10:41:23.067-04:002010-04-08T10:41:23.067-04:00@Mashie, love the enthusiasm you expressed in your...@Mashie, love the enthusiasm you expressed in your comment about what you have going on. <br>Responding to your question: I think that culturally Black women who grew up in the Caribbean may have a different perspective than Black women here about the idea of a Black man dating someone from another race (I may be wrong) just because our history's though similar through slavery, are kind of different given that Jamaica is predominantly Black (without getting into all that history). I was highlighting that since I grew up (at least half) in the States even if there is a difference in perspective (and there may not be) I think I can relate to the African-American perspective as well. In this case, the perspective African-American women may be coming from with how they feel about the interracial dating thing. That's why I brought it up. Don't mistake me though I am PROOOUUUD of my Jamaican-ness and my Jamaican heritage. :) Definitely didn't mean to downplay that.DMhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17658754733824500244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4724906033542462220.post-24907803407254242172010-04-16T17:57:11.363-04:002010-04-16T17:57:11.363-04:00@DM I am loving your blog. I hear - the multi-pers...@DM I am loving your blog. I hear - the multi-perspective; and I feel you - the the African diaspora sometimes get disconnectd - a'la islanders versus African-American. So imagine just how interesting and challenging my relationship is; and that in itself I can appreciate.<br><br>Keep on Bloggin :-)Mashiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09369262912423401027noreply@blogger.com